"So, she did"

 "She believed she could, so, she did." - R.S Grey

Self-doubt is a bitch. The worst type of bitch, really.

Imagine one version of you knowing that you'd be amazing, but this other, much louder version telling you that you can't, screaming all the reasons you'd fail.

I'm no expert in diagnosis, but man oh man have I experienced impostor syndrome and self-doubt.

It's crippling, honestly.  

Anyway, lately, I've been working on making the good bitch louder. Ironically, I call her the Bad Bitch.

Life has taken me on some weird turns lately and I've started making decisions, calculated decisions, that scare me. The types that make the Bad Bitch roar.

I've had to decide to do things just to make it a point that I could if I wanted to. Good things. Strong things.

I can also decide to go back if I wanted to. 

It's less about proving a point to the world and more about proving it to myself. Proving that the spirit in me that I let stay quiet, has a voice. A big voice. 

I have to learn to call on her more. I have to stand up in a way that makes the Bad Bitch proud because at the end of the day, we're all we have.

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